Alright... I first posted this on Facebook... but decided that it needed to be a blog as well... :)
A Good Friend... A best friend.... I've found, a rare commodity.
What exactly is a best friend? Is there a handbook explaining the job description? Many times, I think it would have been useful... for both parties involved. As I entered my adult years, I found that perhaps I wasn't ready to take on that adult role quite yet. And a few years down the road.. I still relapse a little.. I think we all hit a rough patch and some relationships... all kinds... fail before our eyes. Sometimes it's just enough to keep yourself held together and keeping all the pieces to a relationship are just too hard... So, those friends fade. Sometimes your fault, sometimes theirs, and sometimes a failure on both ends. Sometimes the just fizzle out like a 2 liter of diet coke that's been in the fridge a week too long, and sometimes they explode after they've been shaken up a little bit. All, lessons learned.
But here's what I've found, we pick our best friends, because of how they make us feel. The ones who suddenly make us feel at ease with our hectic lives, chip away at the bad day with just a comforting phrase- that's a keeper. I appreciate honesty in my best friend. It's not very often you find someone that you don't mind sharing every detail of your life to...EVEN IF, it's something that's not exactly going to bring a smile to their face. For, neither one of you can hold back, because of the magnetic force drawing you to them to tell them even when you've screwed up the most. But a best friend, I would hope, brings out your best qualities. Encourages you to be a better person. Striving together to grow together. It's just as important to be able to tell your best friend all the wonderful things happening because you know... they'll be just as excited as you are... I guess there comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters... who never did... and who always will...
And so I've found... a best friend or a soulmate... isn't to be taken lightly... They can be just as impacting as the one you choose to marry... just as forgiving, supporting, helping, lifting, encouraging, understanding, telling, calming, and accepting... And just for that reason, don't underestimate the power of a best friend...
What exactly is a best friend? Is there a handbook explaining the job description? Many times, I think it would have been useful... for both parties involved. As I entered my adult years, I found that perhaps I wasn't ready to take on that adult role quite yet. And a few years down the road.. I still relapse a little.. I think we all hit a rough patch and some relationships... all kinds... fail before our eyes. Sometimes it's just enough to keep yourself held together and keeping all the pieces to a relationship are just too hard... So, those friends fade. Sometimes your fault, sometimes theirs, and sometimes a failure on both ends. Sometimes the just fizzle out like a 2 liter of diet coke that's been in the fridge a week too long, and sometimes they explode after they've been shaken up a little bit. All, lessons learned.
But here's what I've found, we pick our best friends, because of how they make us feel. The ones who suddenly make us feel at ease with our hectic lives, chip away at the bad day with just a comforting phrase- that's a keeper. I appreciate honesty in my best friend. It's not very often you find someone that you don't mind sharing every detail of your life to...EVEN IF, it's something that's not exactly going to bring a smile to their face. For, neither one of you can hold back, because of the magnetic force drawing you to them to tell them even when you've screwed up the most. But a best friend, I would hope, brings out your best qualities. Encourages you to be a better person. Striving together to grow together. It's just as important to be able to tell your best friend all the wonderful things happening because you know... they'll be just as excited as you are... I guess there comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters... who never did... and who always will...
And so I've found... a best friend or a soulmate... isn't to be taken lightly... They can be just as impacting as the one you choose to marry... just as forgiving, supporting, helping, lifting, encouraging, understanding, telling, calming, and accepting... And just for that reason, don't underestimate the power of a best friend...
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